Asked to be a "care giver"Wed, 10/03/2018 - 9:51PM
I have a friend who is soon to be receiving an LVAD. I was quite suprised to receive a call from him today ( he is in the hospital )asking if I would consider being his caregiver after the surgery. I have told him I need some time to consider. When he first told me he was a candidate for this a week ago I did some quick research on LVADs( didn't know they existed) and found this website. To begin with I am honored that he would ask me. I also realize that this is a great responsibility and you can't just stop because you get tired or have other things come up. I am supposed to receive a packet in email form from his LVDA Coordinator outlining the needs. I would still like to hear from other caregivers on their experience. I was told I will need 2 weeks in hospital training which is 150 miles away. After the surgery he would have 2-8 weeks of hospital recovery then need a caregiver for 2- 3 months. Is this a realistic timeline? Is it 24/7 care during that timeframe? I am retired but still have my own responsibilities like a home, yard, wife , life and my mother in a nursing home and look after my mother in laws home and yard and would now have his as well. It keeps me busy but these things can be rearranged and juggled for a few months if need be. What I cannot afford is for it to become permanent. He is a good friend with no family or wife he can go to a 3 month period. Is becoming a caregiver a permanent responsibility ( emotionally as well as physically?) It would break my heart to decline and but he has made it clear he would understand. I'm just not sure about taking on more responsibility like this. If I can't do it right for him I would rather not do it at all. My gut tells me a caregivers role is usually family supported and this may be too much for me but I want to help. Your opinions or experiences would be appreciated. Not looking for you to tell me to do it or not just want your real life experience with juggling the requirements.