CAREGIVER ADVICE FOR SOMEONE WHO'S "GIVEN UP"Sun, 02/02/2020 - 2:05PM
My significant other had LVAD implantation last year in May. Before he had the surgery his heart function was at 15% and he had prepared himself that he was going to die. His children and I talked to him about pursuing LVAD surgery and he seemed receptive. We went to Mayo and they said he would be a good candidate for destination therapy. He made the decision to have the surgery after consulting with his kids. The procedure was a success and he is back to good health, and so far no complications. He stays active and has even been able to go fishing again, one of his favorite hobbies. In spite of how well he's doing, he gets tired of "hauling all this equipment" around and "it gets in the way all the time", he's now regretting his decision to listen to his kids and have the surgery. After reading several posts of people who have had medical problems after the surgery, I think he's doing very well. I have told him I'm amazed at how well he's doing, and have tried to point out the positives in his life after having the surgery. He just goes through the motions of day to day living and doesn't find much happiness in it. He's told me he's just going through life and is just waiting to die. Has anyone had to deal with this? And what do you do?